Yet we expect it of ourselves.
We start out with a goal in mind and we often follow it with single minded focus.
We may get whispers to slow down, or ease up the pace for a bit, but we ignore them and soldier on and we push harder!
We may get warning signs now, an injury or trouble sleeping, but we don’t give in, we continue to strive! Eventually the pushing and the striving become unsustainable and we burnout.
Instead of taking the time we need to rest and reassess, we get down on ourselves. We blame ourselves for our ‘lack of willpower’ or our ‘poor motivation’.
For many of us the exact opposite is true.
I mean if you really stop and think about it, would someone with lack of willpower and poor motivation keep trying again and again?
Seriously think about it? The fact that you have tried this again and again shows incredible strength!
As if the burnout and the self-blame weren’t enough, it is often at this point that the comparison starts.
We look to others who have achieved what we are striving for and we ask “what does she have that I don’t?” or “why is it so much easier for her?” or the worst of all “why am I such a screw up? I mean she can do it so there must be something wrong with me!”
If you look to nature there is a time for sowing, a time for cultivating, a time for harvesting and even times for retreating (hibernating). Each plant has its own cycle, and each will bloom in its own time. Pushing yourself to always be blooming is unsustainable and will eventually lead to burnout!
Be kind to yourself, trust the process and own that your journey is your own.
I know it’s cliché but you can’t compare apples and oranges, so don’t let what others are doing pressure you into trying to do MORE or doing things that aren’t right for you.
The only way you have to ‘keep up’ is if you choose to compete in the first place.
I honestly don’t believe this is a competition, we can all be winners because we are all on our own path, but together we grow stronger.
So if you’re retreating please reach out for support, and if you are blooming please share your wisdom, if you are sowing ask all your questions.
Remember wherever you are right now is perfect, because it won’t be long until the seasons change and the roles will be switched around x
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